Segulos and Tefillos (Shidduchim)

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Segulos

How do segulos work and why? Find out more about the Secrets of Segulos.

Read about more about segulos, their origins, and why people rely upon them in this article: "What About Those Wedding Superstitions For Singles?".

• Recite all of Shir HaShirim every day for forty days (preferably after chatzos, or before sunrise)
• Daven for 40 consecutive days at the Kotel (see below)
• Recite from Nishmas Kol Chai (נשמת כל חי) until the end of of Shabbos Pesukei D'Zimrah (פסוקי דזמרה) at the Kotel, at midnight.
• Daven at the kever (grave) of Rabbi Yonasan ben Uziel in Amukah, Israel (neat Tsfat)
• Daven on behalf of someone else who needs a shidduch
• Collect shards from plates broken at the signing of tena'im
• Recite the tehillim listed below each day (see below)
• Recite all of Sefer Tehillim at chatzos (halachic midnight) on Purim night
• Recite Shiras HaYam (the song of the crossing of the Red Sea) with great concentration. (Sefer Hamidos)
• Recite the Torah section dealing with the inaugural sacrifices brought by the heads of the Twelve Tribes. (Numbers, Chapt. 7:1-7:89) (Rabbi Nachman of Breslov)
• Recite Perek Shira every each day
• Study the halachos of Shmiros HaLashon (see below)
• Give tzedakah to Hachnosas Kallah funds
• Become a teacher (or tutor) of Torah
• Do mitzvos or minhagim that will increase your love for Hashem
• Receive the Chasan Breishis (חתן בראשית) aliyah on Simchas Torah
• Obtain a bracha for marriage from a tzadik or your rebbe
• Increase the intensity of your tefilos
• (Men: Recite Kiddush Levanah, the sanctificaton of the New Moon)
• (Women: Hold the candle during havdalah. The height of the raised candle will be the height of your chasan. Or so they say :-))

Mishmeres for Single Girls

Single Girls - be Proactive in Shidduchim!

Join a mishmeres in Shmiras Halashon and/or say tehilim in the zechus of finding your shidduch. For more information, please email proactive613@juno.com.

Simchas Esther Hachnosas Kalla Fund

This Hachnosas Kallah fund is locally based, in the Baltimore area. They have a program called Chodesh Gelt, where each month they will mail you out a donation card with a return envelope so you can donate tzedakah to the fund monthly.

To become part of the Chodesh Gelt program, contact:

Or, to contact the Simchas Esther Hachnosas Kalla Fund, in general:

Phone Numbers: 410-484-2847, 410-358-0059, 410-358-9215

Western Wall Prayers

One segulah for shidduchim is davening at the Kotel for 40 consecutive days.

If you can't do it yourself, a frum Jew involved in Torah-learning in Jerusalem can go for you, and daven on your behalf. This can be arranged via www.westernwallprayers.com.

A small donation for this assistance is traditionally requested.

Tehillim

Note: It's especially propitious to recite Psalm 121 before stepping back after the Shemoneh Esrei.

Tefillos

The Gemara (Baba Kama 92a, See also: Rashi on Beraishis; 21:1) states that "one who solicits mercy for his fellow while he himself is in need of the same thing, [will be answered first]".

This applies to the realm of shidduchim as well.

To pray for another in need of a shidduch, you can e-mail the Kol Hamitpalel Organization at kol18@attglobal.net or call (646) 294-4355

These prayers and other useful info can be found in Rabbi Dolinksy's excellent book, Don't Judge a Book by Its Cover.

Note: The Chida's tefillah is written for men and will need to modified for women's tefillos.